Male Victims of Domestic Violence
In America, a current or former spouse, cohabitating partner, boyfriend/girlfriend, or date at some point in their lives has physically assaulted one in fourteen men.
Approximately twenty-three percent of men reported being raped, physically assaulted, and/or stalked by a male intimate partner. Another seven percent of men reported such violence by a wife or female cohabitant.
Websites like 1 in 6 help boys and men understand more about the issue by addressing some of the key facts.
- Boys and men can be sexually used and abused.
- Boys and men can get aroused during abuse. This does not mean they liked it or they were allowing it.
- Sexual abuse will equally harm boys and girls.
- Both straight and gay men that take advantage of a child’s vulnerability can sexually abuse boys.
- A boy’s sexual orientation is not the cause of sexual abuse.
- Girls and women can sexually abuse boys and men.
- Most boys and men that have been sexually abused will not continue the cycle.
1 in 6 helps men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual encounters in their childhood. They provide support, information, and training for family members, friends, and partners. Their overall goal is to help men live happier lives. The Myths page explains in detail how people can be misinformed about the ideas and expectations they have about boys and men. Understanding, the truths about these myths are important in getting through the healing process.
Jim Hopper, researcher, and therapist in clinical psychology studied the lasting effects of child abuse. Hopper is an expert in several related areas, including long-term effects of childhood sexual abuse in men.
Hopper explains how statistics on child abuse, neglect, and the definition of abuse are the most controversial. He goes over the wording that is used when assessing a situation with a child, as well as explaining the lasting effects of such trauma. Sexual and physical abuse tends to leave everlasting mental pain. Children have no way of defending themselves and can easily be intimidated by the aggressor.
Yurianna Reyes, domestic violence community educator with Mujeres Latinas en Accion said, “Men are stronger than women. I mean, in most cases they are!” Reyes explained that in one of her classes she had to go over the physiology with a parent and some of her girlfriends. “They just couldn’t see it,” said Reyes.
Kathleen A. Doherty the executive director at the Chicago Metropolitan Battered Women’s Network had a story about a man that called trying to figure out if they helped men with domestic violence and abuse. “He had been married for twenty years and he knew something was wrong, but he couldn’t quite figure out what it was. So, he got in the Internet like many people do and started to research what was going on in his relationship. Came to our website and started to read about the dynamics of domestic violence and the pattern.”
Doherty said, “It’s about abuse, it’s about controlling the partner. So, he started to recognize what was going on between he and his wife. Because his wife was in a pattern of behavior that was trying to control what he was doing.” Doherty said that this man eventually divorced his wife because he finally figured out what the signs were. He also brought to her attention that their website was misleading and that the marketing material was not geared towards men.
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