Every story has a beginning. Every cause a catalyst.
Mine was an emotional and mental implosion at the age of 45, when I had total recall of the sexual abuse I had suffered from around 4-16 by both my parents and their friends. I talk about this more extensively on the No Working Title book site.
When I started to try and find someone to talk to, I just couldn’t. All the support groups were for women only. Therapists and church groups in my area only wanted to talk to women or hold groups for women. I remember being clearly told, “You are probably a stalker, men don’t get abused,” and my favorite, “you don’t know what we are going through, all men are abusers.”
So I began to write poetry as a way to help process my memories. I published them anonymously online, and something started to happen. I ended up with 10,000 followers and then 100,000 followers on social media and a very genuine conversation started to happen. A conversation about the sexual abuse of boys and its effect on them as they grow into manhood. I published my art/therapy, No Working Title: A Life in Progress, anonymously in 2013 as an e-book, and then in hardcover in 2015.
In 2015, as one of the few advocates for the impact of sexual abuse on boys and men, I was approached to be a part of a documentary on Sex Trafficking and the time for anonimity was over. I wanted the world to know what damage happens to someone who is subjected to the sorts of things I was. I want those of us who daily feel desperate to know that there is hope, and that we can make a difference. I wanted to start a sane and safe conversation about the impact of sexual abuse and pornography on boys as they grow into manhood.
Our foundational mission is to literally help Give A Voice to those that do not have one. Through our work in advocacy, rehabilitation and rescue we have a passionate desire to make a difference in peoples lives by tackling the hard topics of the effects of pornography, sexual abuse and human trafficking on both genders. If William Wilberforce could cause the tide of slavery to change in his lifetime, so can we.
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Rayanne K. Irving
Rayanne K. Irving was born in Whiterock BC, Canada. Learning to ride horses before she could walk, she spent her early childhood competing in various equestrian disciplines while living on a ranch until the age of thirteen. At the age of sixteen, Rayanne was trafficked throughout the lower mainland of BC in the sex slave trade industry. After her fateful escape, she sought out a quiet and simple life professionally training horses and traveling.
A personal devastating blow drove her out of hiding and led Rayanne to discover solace in the art of Muay Thai Kickboxing. This led her to be able to travel to Thailand on a personal quest for healing, which opened her eyes to the world around her as she became aware that Human Trafficking had become a worldwide epidemic since her own experience. Thus, Rayanne was guided to write her deeply personal story in her debut autobiography, “Sonder” – with a second autobiography, which will reveal even more about her travels and adult life as a survivor of many of life’s traumas.
Currently, Rayanne lives in Central Alberta on a small horse farm where she still rides western performance horses and milks cows while also pursuing a new profession in Specialized Kinesiology with a heavy interest in Applied Physiology, Brain Integration, and Body Management. Her focus and goal is to use not only her schooling, but her unique set of skills as well as personal experiences to help as many trafficked victims and survivors overcome and to be able to release their trauma, both mentally and physically, so that they can go on to lead wonderful fulfilling lives.